Tuesday, 25 August 2020

Everything is completely fine

As long as I don’t 

Tell you my favourite song 

My saddest story

As long as I’m not better than you


Braver than you


As long as I don’t speak up for myself 


Or for my body


As long as I don’t show you my scars


Or burry you under my doormat 


Like the spider that dared to just crawl on my leg


Cause then you would get to know me 


The real me 


& it bleeds 

& bruises 


Friday, 24 April 2020

A pen friend project for your local care home

We’re amidst Coronavirus and bound to stay at home to help slow down the spread of the virus. Besides our yoga, books that we read and films that we watch, we could help other people by getting our children to become pen friends for a local care home. It doesn’t cost anything, doesn’t take up a lot of time, it’s personal and it will make a difference. Not everyone has someone to check up on them and as they stopped visits in care homes they feel even lonelier.  
If you want your children to write to a care home in Chislehurst, please get in touch with me so I can send out the names of the individuals and the address. I would add that a little drawing always brightens up everyone’s mood, so encourage your children to draw something positive in the letter, maybe next to some of their favourite things. 
Below you will find writing prompts and a few drawing ideas.  If you live in a different country/city and would like to do a similar project, you could get started by asking your friends or neighbours if they know of any care homes nearby, if not then you can go onto google and simply search for “care homes around me” or the equivalent of this in your language. Contact them via phone or email, explain who you are and what you would like to do for them and ask if they would be interested in receiving more from other people, in which case you can go ahead and post on local facebook groups.
 Try to take out individual names if they are happy to give them to you. Please be mindful that they might be extremely busy at the moment,so they might not answer their phone or email straight away. 
Lastly, when posting the letter, make sure that you are not touching the letterbox without gloves and take all the safety measures yourself as an adult. Well done for wanting to be part of this lovely initiative! 

Please do not send handwritten letters, if you or any person in your household has displayed symptoms of being unwell in any way in the last 14 days.


THE VIRAL LETTER PROJECT

On the 19 th of March, a care home operator in Haverhill Suffolk UK, took the very difficult decision to suspend visitors to their home's effect immediately in order to protect the health and safety of their residents.
They vowed to do everything in their power to keep people in touch with their loved ones, using every means available - telephone, video calls, emails, traditional letters and cards, but this still wasn’t going to be an easy task.
So they made one very special public request.
They proposed a special letter-writing project –  A pen friend project.
Asking local children if they would like to write handwritten letters to residents in an effort to lift their spirits and bring an extra smile to their faces while they couldn’t see their families and couldn’t go outside.
A small act of kindness that would cost almost nothing but a little time.
An act of kindness that could make all the difference to someone feeling isolated and alone.
Particularly those confused at the sudden disappearance of family, or those without any family, who had come to rely on their walks out and about for their daily dose of human contact.
Not everyone has someone to check in on them, grab something nice from the shops for them or drop off homemade cakes to them. 

LETTER WRITING PROMPTS

HOW TO START YOUR LETTER

Unless your care home gives you the name of a person, or a list of people who are particularly in need of an extra lift (there will be people like this – you could always ask), it’s best to keep opening lines general. 
That way one letter can be shown to a number of different people.
A simple “Hello” is fine, or if you prefer, “To whoever reads this message”. 

WHAT TO WRITE NEXT – 20 LETTER WRITING PROMPTS FOR CHILDREN

The best letters are friendly, interested and conversational, so you could include any of the prompts below.  Your letter doesn’t have be pages long.
  1. My name is …………………….. and I am also in isolation at the moment. I’m really looking forward to writing to you.
  2. How are you doing at the moment? or  I hope you are well.
  3. My favourite things.
  4. My favourite foods & things I like to cook.
  5. My talents and thing’s I’m really good at.
  6. Thing’s I like to collect.
  7. Three things I’ve been doing since isolation started – Schoolwork, board games, painting rainbows, other activities.
  8. The best and worst parts of my week.
  9. My favourite school subjects.
  10. Books I’m reading.
  11. Thing’s I’m watching on tv or listening to.
  12. How we’re exercising.
  13. Three things I’ve seen – Out of the window, in my garden, while on my walk.
  14. People I’ve spoken to and things they’ve said (On the phone, neighbours over the garden fence, yelling across the road).
  15. The weather! – Always an easy one.
  16. A little story from my life: I remember when ………………..
  17. Questions, questions, questions (well……. 2 or 3 questions anyway. Don’t go over the top).
  18. If I had 3 wishes……….
  19. I have sent you a picture that I have drawn, a short story or poem that I’ve written, a flower that I’ve pressed.
  20. Thank you for writing back to me   or Thank you for sharing your story with me (this only works if the letters are being sent both ways). 








HOW TO WRAP IT UP

  1. If you would like to write to me, I have enclosed my address.
You can say “I’ll look forward to hearing from you”, but only if you know they’re going to be able to write back.  No pressure.

  1. I like writing letters to you. It’s fine if you can’t write back. 

Wednesday, 12 February 2020

What do you want from this life?


A few years ago I couldn’t find a job that ticked all my boxes, so I took up an office role. 6 months of working in a corporate environment was a revelation for me, my Dalai Lama. I tried to be all the things I disliked in order to find out who I really am. Mornings smell like new cotton suits and broken dreams. Every day I just become a little bit less of myself. My colleagues are the type of people I would usually avoid. I just have to camouflage my existence through boring conversations about food, children, our bosses’ shiny latexy red shoes. In time I get to understand that this is who I am without my gifts, my photography, my writing. 
I am a boring human being who drags all her 206 bones to a job she hates, but that looks good on paper. I get paid to say things I don’t believe in and I try to get fat because everyone in the office tells me that I’m way too thin. So I eat a lot of fatty food because all I want to do is integrate. I want to be one of them. I have to forget all about creativity and just live a normal life, pay my bills and know what to say when the “food” topic comes back again. I eat, I sleep and I go to work. Nothing more, nothing less.  My clothes get more black and my lines, well rehearsed, win undeclared Oscars. My conversations on things I don’t give a shit about have improved. The only time when I am being myself is when I’m dreaming. Slowly and gradually I fall into depression. My dad stares at me and says he never saw me so sad. He gives me 100 pounds to cheer me up. It works. My lie works for a while.Nothing else works.  One day I get a wake up call that awakens all my senses. I decide to pay my client’s product from my own money. I am breaking the rules, I’m a punk in pointy shoes and cheap eyeliner. She’s old, doesn’t have any money left from her pension and just wants to talk to her only relative. I’m trying to be good and say my lines, but the procedure is so complicated that I might as well add “and at the end you blow down your top and you make the sign of the cross three times and also cut your hair on a full moon”. Forget about the system, forget about their rules. The only truth now is that this 80 year old woman is struggling to afford food, let alone a conversation with her only living relative.
 The procedure is not inclusive, doesn’t think or care of all its clients. THIS is not genuine and I will not be part of it. My clothes are getting itchy now and I’m just creating a situation where they have to fire me, but I resign first anyway. What a relief. On a positive note,I learned how to make myself understood amongst people I disliked and most importantly, that I needed a job where my gifts, the only things that set me apart from other people are put to great use on a daily basis. To me, this was the case of photography and writing, but it can be anything from cleaning to a PHD. Don’t hide your magic, show it off. Choose you! If you feel trapped in a place that you don’t belong to and need someone to talk to, please reach out! I am now doing a job that I LOVE and would not trade for anything in the world, but it took years of honesty, compromises and commitment. Lead your way x